You Can’t Spoil A New Born Baby!
The impact that a parent’s love and attention has on a baby’s development is researched and undeniable. We now know that it is impossible to “spoil” a new born baby and that the more we respond to their cries in those early developmental months, the less needy and more resilient they will grow to be.
As soon as your baby is born they know you and can pick you out of a crowd. You are as special to them as they are to you.
The magical connection between my mummy and me
Your love is how I acquire my first developmental milestone, trust. Because when I learn that I can count on you to meet my needs and respond to my cries, I learn to trust and I learn that I am deserving of love.
I am born neurologically wired to connect and attach to you. In fact, some researchers suggest that if they took an MRI scan of my brain and one of your brain, that lying our two scans on top of each other would show a mirror image…isn’t that exciting?
Your touch is magical to me and it helps me to develop and feel safe and organised. I love when you “toes and nose” me. This means you bring your nose in to touch mine, moving slowly so as not to frighten me and touching me gently, then rubbing your nose side to side with mine a couple of times. I love when you do this every single day! Also, that you count and play with my toes doing “this little piggy went to market”. But please don’t tickle me at the end, it can be over stimulating for me and feel uncomfortable. I like it best when you just walk your fingers up my leg at the end or even nicer, rub my foot in circles at the end.
I feel a lot and often my feelings get too big for me to manage alone
Even though I am small, I feel a lot and often my feelings get too big for me to manage alone. I need your help to pick me up, rock me, sing to me, softly stroke my face and make me feel that it will all be ok. Remember that loud noises, bright lights or even the sudden temperature change of getting undressed can overwhelm me at this stage.
When you understand me, you help me to make sense of the world around me. Those researchers tell us that when you learn to read and understand the cues that I give you (like crying or wriggling) and you respond appropriately by giving me what I need in that moment, you are doing more for my brain development than any structured activity or fancy shop bought gadget will ever achieve.
As I feel loved and understood by you, I begin to better understand who I am myself and how the world works. YOU are all I need to support my development in these early months of my life.